![]() ![]() As an adult, you feel separate and alone. Lacking enough of this relationship glue, its hard to form the deep and resilient emotional connections that should be fulfilling your natural human needs for connection. But with your emotions walled off, you are lacking the one most important ingredient that connects human beings together: feelings. it enables you to stop troubling your parents with the burden of your feelings. As a child, pushing your feelings down and away helps you cope with the environment youre growing up in. Children who grow up with their feelings ignored or discouraged automatically wall their feelings off to survive.This leaves you feeling alone as an adult. Since the capacity for meaningful discussion is an important part of the fabric of a friendship or relationship, not having this skill makes it hard for you to have meaningful connections. So if meaningful conversations did not take place very much in your family, you may not have learned how to do it. It requires practice to build the skills. Talking about painful things is difficult, for sure. One CEN client told me that his family was great about discussing plans and logistics, but if someone got sad, angry or hurt, everyone in the household scattered. Families who ignore or dismiss emotions tend to have few meaningful conversations. ![]() 6 Ways CEN Makes You Feel Alone as an Adult I hope you will feel validated and hopeful because there are two very important and positive things about Childhood Emotional Neglect. As you read below about how CEN sets you up to feel lonely, I hope you will feel the opposite of alone. ![]()
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